I “love” (meaning: hate) how people keep taking my open letter completely out of context, or simply, completely misreading it, or insisting there are ideas or malice in it that just aren’t there. Do you people honestly think this is how I feel about all men, ever? Or that I don’t realize that not all men are like that? (But far too many are, and far too many men like this think they’re being sympathetic to the cause when they’re really perpetuating the same sexist heirarchy yet again–which is the POINT.) Maybe, you know, certain “liberal” men do some of those things and not others, or they don’t do any of them but can’t see it when other men do, or that maybe sometimes they’re just huge sexist pigs who think that by hiding behind a shroud of “liberalism” they can get away with it? Saying you’re one thing and then acting like the exact opposite doesn’t work. Or that I don’t think that, fundamentally, people are people regardless of context? (I got a comment to this effect, actually. “PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE!” Yeah…that’s what the whole damn blog is about if you bothered to find out what I’m about, but I suppose you somehow missed that or something.) Did you bother to actually, like, read anything I’ve written before feeling the need to spew self-righteous defensiveness everywhere?

(This said, I’ve gotten a few thoughtful comments from people who didn’t quite understand what I meant or thought my statements were problematic, worded in a respectful way. Fine. Great! Constructive discourse ensues! Careful, we might accidentally make this a trend.)

Read my other, more serious posts, before assuming you have any idea what I think or what you are talking about when you criticize me. Especially since I specifically wrote some of them to pre-empt this kind of criticism. This blog is less than two weeks old, there’s not too much you have to wade through. Thank you.

EDIT: Apparently, the issue is that my tone is “hostile”. Any time a woman confidently expresses her displeasure with something, she’s being “too angry” or “overemotional” or “hostile”. I’m sorry my not being all nice and full of rainbows has somehow single-handedly brought down the entire feminist movement by alienating men who aren’t very good “allies” to begin with. (I’ve also been told I “hurt the feminist movement” and “give feminists a bad name”. I have only two things to say: feminists had a GOOD name? Dear lord, when? And, of course, well-behaved women rarely make history. I think I’m off to a good start so far if this is any indication. Soon, the WORLD!) I’m hostile against hypocritical people, yeah. If you want to see hostility: FUCK YOU. I HAVE OPINIONS. DEAL WITH IT. Have a nice day.

This entry was posted on Friday, February 24th, 2006 at 12:47 pm and is filed under Open Letters, Rants and Rages.